If you want to lose weight successfully, permanently, safely, then you have to start by accepting yourself now. I know this goes against what a lot of diets teach…but that is part of the point…I don’t teach about diets, I teach about what works-for me and for others-and in order to have weight loss success you have to start with acceptance.
Accepting who you are right now-your current weight, your current size and shape, your current physical condition and ability-is a crucial step in losing weight permanently.
Many people believe that acceptance means that you are satisfied with maintaining that condition for the rest of your life. That is not the case at all.
Others believe that acceptance means focusing on where you are and harping on it, over and over. That isn’t what I mean either.
When I speak of acceptance, it is two parts: first you must accept where you are and second you must accept responsibility for getting yourself there. That’s all. You don’t have to make judgments about where you are; you don’t have to stay there; you don’t have to beat yourself up for being there; you don’t have to bemoan that you are there; you don’t even have to tell others that you are there.
Acceptance is not saying, “I am a flat slob.” That is a judgment. Acceptance does not mean you have to jump up and down and say, “Woo Hoo! Look at me! I’m fat and beautiful!” Some people can do that, but that is a big stretch for most people. Think of acceptance as being neutral…like a scientist or statistician. You are looking at something and seeing it.
Objectively looking at our naked bodies in the mirror can take practice. After all, we have had lots of practice accepting messages that if our bodies don’t look like those we see in advertisements and movies then our bodies are ugly or somehow not good enough.
Practice by looking in the mirror and pretend that you are looking at someone else’s body…if this person was someone you love would you call them a fat slob? Probably not…you love them regardless of their body…sure you may NOTICE they are overweight, but it is unlikely that you JUDGE them for it. Cut yourself the same slack! Love yourself enough to NOTICE but not JUDGE your current physical condition.
Now come to terms with the fact that the ONLY person who is responsible for your condition is YOU. Sure your genes have an impact, the training you got, or didn’t get, about nutrition had an effect, all the lessons you learned from family and society about body image all helped or hindered your health. But in the end every choice that was made was made by you and only you.
By accepting that you are overweight, out of shape, and accepting choices you made are what got you there, you are now liberating yourself to make new choices that will allow you to have the slender, fit body that you desire. Because you accepted the responsibility for being not fit you can also claim the responsibility for being fit-right now!
As long as we continue to judge ourselves rather than accepting; as long as we criticize ourselves for being where we are rather than simply acknowledging it; as long as we continue to focus on what we did to get there, we are destined to stay there.
You can learn to objectively accept where you are and then how to move yourself forward to increased health including successfully losing weight permanently and safely.